Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 12:02 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2025
I wanted to take a moment to thank the people on this forum who took the time to offer their experience, strength and hope when I arrived. I literally owe you my life.
Had I been married to a WS who was willing to follow the advice and own their side of the street in the A, I believe the advice given here could have been marriage-saving. To be clear I do not believe my ex marriage cheated. My ex wh was fully responsible for his choices and decisions. FWIW he has gone on to cheat on at least one other woman who believed she was in a monogamous relationship with him. I know because she actually publicly outed him, and I believe her.
I am not at all grateful for the trauma. I absolutely do not believe that infidelity abuse or the ensuing trauma made me or my family stronger or better. And I don’t believe I deserved what happened to me. But I will be forever grateful to the members here who created this site and to those who cared enough to post, comment, and share.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
TheEnd ( member #72213) posted at 11:08 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2025
Just wanted to pop on and say that I very much appreciate your posts. I find you intelligent and soothing in some kind of way. I appreciate that you are here.
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 11:18 PM on Friday, April 11th, 2025
Thank you for your contribution here, the best way to show gratitude is by paying it forward. This is the best group of people on the internet.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 5:48 AM on Monday, April 14th, 2025
I appreciate your contributions here, Shehawk. Thanks (to you and everyone else) for sticking around and paying it forward!
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WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov '22. Dday4 Sep '23. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Living separately as of Mar '25.
